Dear Emily Schuman

25 Apr

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*Tuesday Update*
In a completely unexpected, coincidental twist, after I published this in the early AM hours, EST, I woke to find that Emily had posted what she referred to as an “An earnest and open letter to my readers.” I’m not quite as ready to praise what she wrote her as many of the commenters, but at least she posted something. I will share the comment I left on her post under my letter, but, as I anticipated, she moderated my comment and it didn’t make the cut I guess. No surprise there! 

Dear Emily Schuman,

As a longtime reader of your lifestyle blog Cupcakes and CashmereI feel like I need to air some grievances here. Since “Alina-gate,” GOMI has been an amusing resource for me and others whom, I feel, might just be your most passionate and truest fans. In this era of Lena, Mindy, Amy and Tina, I couldn’t agree more that the “girl on girl” crime has got to stop so I want to be clear that I’m not voicing any support for a the unchecked expression of petty jealousy. If someone isn’t a fan of a look, so be it. I acknowledge that some of the GOMI discussions are petty. But much what is being discussed lately is how absurdly you’re behaving toward many longtime readers and fans and I’ve had enough. I’m speaking out via my own creative outlet since the censorship of your own platforms is so unforgiving.

I think you have a responsibility to not keep your readers at arm’s length in the way you’ve been doing for a while now — deleting critical comments and blocking users who bring poor sponsorship choices to your attention and categorizing comments as being “rude or disrespectful” when they’re neither — they’re true but you don’t like them and want them hidden. Is that because you don’t want sponsors seeing them? Do you realize that you’re turning away many intelligent, thoughtful fans and followers? You’re running a business for goodness sake.

Personally, I’d like to see a little more transparency and ownership as far as how you handle issues like what happened with your last sponsor, NuSkin. We’re all human and mistakes happen but I don’t think an update on an already published post is quite enough ownership. As someone who has read your blog for a long time and supported both the authorship of your books and your clothing line (I LOVE my green army jacket and still wear of the first eyelash lace dresses you created), I have a vested interest here. I WANT to keep reading (and rooting for you). You’re making it very difficult though.

When this article broke back in 2013, I hoped to see some changes in your approach to Cupcakes and Cashmere. Maybe more love for the other creative people out there who’d inspired various DIY projects and recipes, or at the very least, a little more humility. And transparency. But I expected too much.

There is a massive transition happening in the blogging world right now and though I’ve always sensed you approached your blog with more of a business angle from the beginning than most others with your background at AOL, and had an early eye toward developing a lifestyle empire, almost like a younger, modern Martha Stewart, I would advise you to inject some humanity into this entire endeavor.

These days, bloggers, tastemakers and thought leaders are leaning so heavily toward building a wall up between themselves and their readers with some of the best of the best, like John and Sherry of Young House Love, exiting the blogging world entirely in mid-2014, only to re-enter on their own, much more defined and protected terms.

Their departure really, really stung if I’m being totally honest. I was never one of the critical readers who lambasted them for one too many posts about their laundry room makeover nor am I a critical reader of most of the types of reads I’d deem “for fun” or “for inspiration.”  I was just happy to be able to read and follow-along with their adventures as they perked up their homes and raised their kids. When Sherry sang praises for cloth diapering, it became one of my most fervent aspirational dreams to one day cloth diaper my future child. They became like friends and were such a source of design inspiration for me. Our aesthetics weren’t even similar, but guess what color my entire downstairs is painted thanks to their recommendation? Benjamin Edgecomb Gray. Sherry is right, it’s the perfect neutral in any light.

Still, I was very hurt to see them reach such a height of success and then slam the door on readers like me, more or less. The thing is, Sherry and John are so authentic and relatable, they soon opened that door a crack… and then a bit more, and then a bit more, always remaining true to themselves as they re-entered the public eye while explaining and detailing their perspective and why they took a step back, how things will change moving forward, etc.  It was all too soon that I forgave any hurt I’d experienced as one of those non-demanding readers who never expected 24/7 access and was just thrilled to be able to be back in their occasional orbit.

You have always posted in a much more formal tone then them though, referencing more and more lately that you are in fact, a boss running a business, so I don’t elaborate so thoroughly on John and Sherry to make a comparison per se, but rather to give you an example that I think you could benefit from. Take a step back and assess what is happening right now with your business please. I also mention them because I think that no matter what mistakes may have been made over the years, owning to them, acknowledging them, and responding authentically will make all the difference.

Sincerely,
A longtime reader

*Updated*
After I read the post mentioned above which was published on Tuesday, I left the following comment which seems to have been moderated and not allowed to post.

Really nice to see this kind of post for a change and my heart goes out to the family who lost their little boy. Hugs to Sloan too, and your nanny, who probably grew close to him during playdates and is reeling as well. It might have been more tactful to not mention your own struggle with anxiety and plug your biggest project within the same paragraph, never mind the same post though. And while I commend you for your commitment to your brand, there is a reason why responsible brands hang back – not necessarily going dark – but slow the influx of positive social media posts during times of great tragedy. It’s just not appropriate. I know you view C+C as a holistic brand of which the blog is a piece, but I think you’re missing that your readers and followers both here and on social media connect you, Emily Schuman, as Cupcakes and Cashmere. Not your clothing line. Or your books. Or your bedding line. Or whatever other business affiliations you’ve got behind the scenes or on the horizon. We follow this blog for you — to read what’s inspiring you, what you’re wearing, what your Five Things will be (a very personal series), so to repeatedly reiterate that this is a business and to hold us at arms length, then express that you care more than we’ll ever know… I’m sorry, but I want to see a bit more humanity and authenticity than you’re offering here. Maybe consult out for some PR guidance. I don’t know. But I want to root for you and I’m finding it really difficult.

Spring Window Box Inspiration

15 Apr

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For years and year, I documented “window box inspiration” with my camera for a future date when I’d have a home of my own where I could install and plant window boxes overflowing with blooms. I’ve always loved how charming homes with window boxes are but often found a lot of the examples I saw to be very sparsely filled and a bit boring.
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The most beautiful ones I photographed tended to be outside the brownstones on Beacon Hill in Boston, or done professionally by businesses.  Legal Seafood is one of the standout examples I recall being wowed by a few summers ago in fact. EarlySpringWindowBoxWhat I didn’t realize in my garden fantasizing days was just how expensive it is to properly fill out window boxes. They look best when the plants are densely packed which obviously means = more plants. It would be fabulous to stud my spring window boxes with overflowing daffodils, boxwood, ivy, and pansies but it adds up quickly.

I’ve also realized that what you use to fill your window boxes can cause them to become a bit high maintenance. Unless they’re very easily accessible, dead-heading flowers to proliferate growth and keeping them watered can be a challenge.

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Last summer I tried to manage the latter issue (of watering) with my purchase of four of these Mayne “Fairfield” window boxes which feature a self-watering reservoir. So far, I’ve been really pleased with them, though I am embarrassed to admit that I only managed to get one mounted and hung in time for the tail end of the summer.

Since family will be coming over for an Easter egg hunt this weekend, I’m hoping to get them installed and planted by the end of the day today and will fill them with whatever I have on hand. I might pull up some of the ground cover ivy we have growing in abundance in the backyard, fill in with some creeping jenny that is also growing in random spots in the garden and sprinkle in the remaining bare spots with the pansies I got earlier in the week.

I’d love to throw in some daffodils but unfortunately, I didn’t think to plant the bulbs in the fall so I’ll have to table that idea for next spring. So I may beg some forsythia branches off the neighbors and tuck them into the pots for some additional color, or else, go the faux route and supplement with some flowering branches or pussy willows for texture and height.

I’ll definitely be more prepared next year, but it helps to start somewhere. What are your favorite window box plantings and combinations?

Five Things

14 Apr

FullSizeRender 19The past week gave us a glimpse of spring with temperatures in the 80s at the beginning of the week. The daffodils and tulip bulbs that I planted in the fall are poking up in the garden and this week was a whirlwind of Target runs to drool over the Victoria Beckham collection (it’s amazing, check it out!), yard work and garden planning, and preparations for Easter this weekend.

FullSizeRender 15The egg tree tradition lives on, upgraded w/ forsythia branchesFullSizeRender 18shopping for pansies in Victoria Beckham for Target (here)FullSizeRender 16the sweet jelly bean house Emilia decorated herself
FullSizeRender 17first Russo’s run of the season and debut of jellies (here)